Thursday, October 25, 2012
My Life..
Hehe.. though i promise myself to blog often..but seems i cant keep this promise but at least this post is not too far from my previous post... =x
So far life is good.. i quited MMORPG ...yet again and relegated to Dota 2 with my friends i met thru out this past few years gaming. In Short life is really getting better by alot within this few years
My BTO house already built until 13 floor liao.. soon it will be at 20th (max 20th floor) and i predicted i will be able to move in around nov next year...Now really need to start saving tons of money if not how to survice sia!
Work so far i'm liking it alot. Ever since i started working 2003 at E-games till now.. this is the only job after almost 4 month that i can say that its still Stress free. Talk about irony... =.= . The only downside is i have to squeeze with ppl to take bus to work...but when travelling home i am gurantee a seat but it will become sadine by the time i get out whew!.
I'm looking into planning a Genting trip this coming Nov-Dec ..hopefully i can get to breath cold air and do some gambling considering my luck have change and that i feel i'm lucky enough to win some money back from the Casino...i really do feel that way =)
Me and my wife are still as loving as always although she love to nag at me ( she "enjoy" nagging her sibling since young so i guess now we are married she transfer this onto me and her sibling was actually happy i am at recieving end and not them -_- )But we do need to work on our spending now since our house is coming and the fact we just bought a insurance + rider for both of us which will eat us 150-200 sgd per month >_<
I hope my life can continue this smooth sailing and my job can maintain longer then 10 yr... The environment is really not bad compare to previous jobs.
All in all i will end my blogging with the usual crap ... i will blog often! =x
Wednesday, July 25, 2012
Woah its that long
Yup..its that long since i last blog..and yes..alot of things happen and i'm gonna update some of them if not all of them to my best of my memory
1)June 13 -Finally found my job(hopefully dream job) after 4month ++ of job searching..its with Singapore Power as IT as. Pay is not bad..and the benefit is very good... jobscope wise is all right as well..hopefully this will be my long lasting job..and from what i can see from the staffs there..its indeed a place you can work quite long in.
2)May 29-June 4th My Taiwan wedding photo shoot is completed and uplodated a few preview pic on fb if anyone wanna see. The rest of the photos are not uploaded at the moment as we still waiting for the fully edited version hehe.Everyday after our photoshoot we will went to a night market to pig ourself and shop abit...its abit rush for time as we only have 4 day there but we enjoy ourself despite the crunch of time we had...
3)July 21th-31 july(ongoing) i'm in HK now...we just experience few days ago the strongest typhoon hk ever encounter since 1999. Its rated as typhoon 10... and i manage to experience it first hand by helping a hongkong resident carry her lugage from the mtr to the bus terminal thru a open walkway.. and get blown by the typhoon 8 wind (10 was During midnight which i am already home) I cannot really stand on my own with luguage on one hand and one hand balancing my way thru..its fun and once in a lifetim for singaporean..unless u always go hongkong during this time.The trip so far is dull...to say the least.. HK disney land have some interesting ride..but most of the stuff is intended for small kids... gonna look forward to the ocean park trip though..since i saw most of the ride are fast and thrilling!!! During this time..we took MTR and bus like a fellow hk...and i have to say their standard of living is quite high if not higher then us! I would suggest Taiwan trip if you wanna eat and enjoy yourself. If you are rich and wanna use money to enjoy yourself Hongkong will be your best location. Today we went Macau and while shopping happen to saw a Hk actress who act in My Date with the vampire (Yao Qiu Shen Mu) She was there promoting some shop and we happen to be in that same shop.More will be updated as the trip progress since i will try my upmost best to keep this blog alive....as this serve my personal reading article as my memories fails.. as a movie once told me Memory may fade but the adventure and feeling for it will never be erase
Personal Life
Ok back to my personal life.. yes i'm still quite a gamer...currently playing The Secret World..and its a fun game!! addicitve too but its too bad i'm in HK now if not i will be gaming and wont have time to blog lol... I did bought D3 but sold in 2 week time after i got hack ( apparently alot of ppl got hack too) anyway i dun like it ..so i sell its reduce price of 50SGD to a fellow COK.
Well currently thats all i can think of..abit tired now in my room at Pok fu lam apartment we rent for our 9 day stay.I will update more often!! i promise \/
Thursday, May 3, 2012
Friday, January 6, 2012
Emo?
Recently PMS(Emo) dawn on me again..and no nothing bad happen to be nor i'm bleeding like a real PMS *lol* but it just make me feel emo out of nothing
Maybe its that i'm leaving my job and unclear of the future or is that life have been susprising boring that make me feel this way
This year begin as a married man in a CNY. Meaning i will no longer recieved Ang Bao ..and have to give ang bao after 1 yr of marriage >_< S_S fly away
I hope 2012 i can get a nice job with good pay .. happier life and also something to look forward every time of the month
^_^
Maybe its that i'm leaving my job and unclear of the future or is that life have been susprising boring that make me feel this way
This year begin as a married man in a CNY. Meaning i will no longer recieved Ang Bao ..and have to give ang bao after 1 yr of marriage >_< S_S fly away
I hope 2012 i can get a nice job with good pay .. happier life and also something to look forward every time of the month
^_^
Friday, December 30, 2011
Alive
Yoz
i'm still alive just less blogging ..been a happier year .. hoping the next yr will be fine as well
Currently working in Gucci singapore..but not really happy...will be leaving soon though hope to find a new better job
I've just came back from Taiwan..i must say the trip is quite fun considering we go with family....hope to visit Taiwan again soon ..though next year i'm going Hongkong ~!~!~!~!
currently working now...cant really blog..but just wanna say this blog is still alive and i still come back from time to time to blog... :)
i'm still alive just less blogging ..been a happier year .. hoping the next yr will be fine as well
Currently working in Gucci singapore..but not really happy...will be leaving soon though hope to find a new better job
I've just came back from Taiwan..i must say the trip is quite fun considering we go with family....hope to visit Taiwan again soon ..though next year i'm going Hongkong ~!~!~!~!
currently working now...cant really blog..but just wanna say this blog is still alive and i still come back from time to time to blog... :)
Friday, September 30, 2011
The Naggy ( Diffcult Wife )
The Difficult Wife
What is a difficult wife from a husband's perspective?
Nagging is the number one complaint of men. A difficult wife hounds her husband until he gets it. If he remains unaffected, she will resort to name calling. If unsuccessful, she will scold him like a child.
A difficult wife claims that her husband is not doing anything in the house or does not understand what is needed in the house. A difficult wife thinks a husband does not do anything right. A difficult wife accuses her husband that the reason they are in a bad situation is because of his bad decisions. A difficult wife makes her husband feel that he is in a "no-win situation". A husband feels that his difficult wife does not see the sacrifices made. He feels unappreciated. All the actions of a husband seem insignificant. She treats her husband like a child who needs to be fixed. To avoid confrontation, the husband avoids interaction with his wife. A difficult wife is ungrateful. She does not know how hard he works to provide for them.
The Reality
Is it an issue of the wife being difficult or is it because the husband lacks an understanding of his role as a leader?
No one taught a man to bring out the innate leadership skills in his family life. So, the children in the house are confused. They need clarifications from their parents on what it means to be the leader of the house. If their expectations are unclear, these sons will continue the cycle. This son will be a future husband who is withdrawn and passive.
It is typical for the husband to go home from work tired. He goes to a world of his own by watching his favorite sport. He retires to the couch. He rationalizes his need for rest. His wife realizes that this is unfair. She wanted her man to have the energy to deal with the current family issue and not ignore it.. She starts to let him know her frustrations. The husband knew it was coming and labels his wife as a "big time nagger".
Lacking in leadership skills, he feels that his wife knows the problem better than him. Thus, she can handle it better. He loses his desire to be present. He feels uncertain about the issue. He will unlikely initiate an action. He will bury himself with work and stay late in the office. He will go out with his friends and drink until the wee hours of the morning. He will go to golf games with his buddies the whole weekend. He will even take separate vacations.
The husband is actually leading himself away from his wife. If the wife puts her foot forward, the husband gets upset. He feels that the wife is preventing him from becoming the man he should be. His bitterness turns to rage. He attacks and loses control. He hurts his wife. He feels guilty then further withdraws. He feels inadequate to be a family leader. He allows his wife to lead. He stops desiring to take charge. The wife takes over. The husband complains "Geez, you do have a problem."
Wife/Gf should take note
Tackle Problems by Talking: Your husband isn't perfect and there would be times when you need to really have a frank talk with him. You don't need to feel conscious about do so, lest you be "nagging." All that you have to do is watch your tone and prepare the setting. Catch him when he isn't watching TV or distracted in any other way and can give you his full attention. Having done so, sit him across and talk to him in a gentle tone and discuss the problems that you want to put across to him and how you'd like to get it resolved. He would appreciate you for doing so. Talking is very different from nagging. I am sure you know the difference in tone and approach.
Stop Pointing out His Wrongs: We all make mistakes, don't we? Do we like others (even our partners) pointing out that to us? Of course, we don't! So, do you think your husband would appreciate the fact that you list out what he's done wrong during the day, at home or through all the years he's been with you? He wouldn't! If you feel your husband has done a wrong that he shouldn't have, as stated above, there's a better way - talking. Nagging is just a continuous burst of complaints and accusations, which would do no good to your relationship and do nothing to solve the underlying problem.
Silence is Golden: Sometimes, it pays to stay silent, even in the face of provocation. While they say that communicating is important in a relationship, I would argue that too much communication is bad, especially if you have a nagging tendency. You can be sure that much of this communication would in fact just be nagging, if you were to study yourself closely.
Take the Help of Others: Sometimes, especially in social situations, when there are your friends/relatives around, you can utilize them to address your nagging problem. If you could talk to them about helping you out, whenever you feel "naggy" by diverting your attention or bringing up another subject, that would help greatly. Men don't like being nagged, but they don't like it that much more, when they are nagged in front of others. Adopting this strategy would help maintain your respect in his eyes and avoid much agony for him, having to lose face in front of others.
Reflect / Point of View: I often find that putting myself in the other person's shoes gives me fresh new perspective and appreciation of what it is for the other person. I follow this strategy for dealing with many issues in my daily life and it really works. Knowing how your husband would feel, can make you empathize with his situation better and help react more appropriately in a specific situation.
Nagging isn't something someone is born with. It is not in one's genes. If anything, it is a habit, and as with other bad habits, you can learn to tackle it. What you need is appreciation of the problem in the first place and then being disciplined in following strategies to counter it. Stop nagging and start living and loving. There's much to gain and very little to lose!!
What is a difficult wife from a husband's perspective?
Nagging is the number one complaint of men. A difficult wife hounds her husband until he gets it. If he remains unaffected, she will resort to name calling. If unsuccessful, she will scold him like a child.
A difficult wife claims that her husband is not doing anything in the house or does not understand what is needed in the house. A difficult wife thinks a husband does not do anything right. A difficult wife accuses her husband that the reason they are in a bad situation is because of his bad decisions. A difficult wife makes her husband feel that he is in a "no-win situation". A husband feels that his difficult wife does not see the sacrifices made. He feels unappreciated. All the actions of a husband seem insignificant. She treats her husband like a child who needs to be fixed. To avoid confrontation, the husband avoids interaction with his wife. A difficult wife is ungrateful. She does not know how hard he works to provide for them.
The Reality
Is it an issue of the wife being difficult or is it because the husband lacks an understanding of his role as a leader?
No one taught a man to bring out the innate leadership skills in his family life. So, the children in the house are confused. They need clarifications from their parents on what it means to be the leader of the house. If their expectations are unclear, these sons will continue the cycle. This son will be a future husband who is withdrawn and passive.
It is typical for the husband to go home from work tired. He goes to a world of his own by watching his favorite sport. He retires to the couch. He rationalizes his need for rest. His wife realizes that this is unfair. She wanted her man to have the energy to deal with the current family issue and not ignore it.. She starts to let him know her frustrations. The husband knew it was coming and labels his wife as a "big time nagger".
Lacking in leadership skills, he feels that his wife knows the problem better than him. Thus, she can handle it better. He loses his desire to be present. He feels uncertain about the issue. He will unlikely initiate an action. He will bury himself with work and stay late in the office. He will go out with his friends and drink until the wee hours of the morning. He will go to golf games with his buddies the whole weekend. He will even take separate vacations.
The husband is actually leading himself away from his wife. If the wife puts her foot forward, the husband gets upset. He feels that the wife is preventing him from becoming the man he should be. His bitterness turns to rage. He attacks and loses control. He hurts his wife. He feels guilty then further withdraws. He feels inadequate to be a family leader. He allows his wife to lead. He stops desiring to take charge. The wife takes over. The husband complains "Geez, you do have a problem."
Wife/Gf should take note
Tackle Problems by Talking: Your husband isn't perfect and there would be times when you need to really have a frank talk with him. You don't need to feel conscious about do so, lest you be "nagging." All that you have to do is watch your tone and prepare the setting. Catch him when he isn't watching TV or distracted in any other way and can give you his full attention. Having done so, sit him across and talk to him in a gentle tone and discuss the problems that you want to put across to him and how you'd like to get it resolved. He would appreciate you for doing so. Talking is very different from nagging. I am sure you know the difference in tone and approach.
Stop Pointing out His Wrongs: We all make mistakes, don't we? Do we like others (even our partners) pointing out that to us? Of course, we don't! So, do you think your husband would appreciate the fact that you list out what he's done wrong during the day, at home or through all the years he's been with you? He wouldn't! If you feel your husband has done a wrong that he shouldn't have, as stated above, there's a better way - talking. Nagging is just a continuous burst of complaints and accusations, which would do no good to your relationship and do nothing to solve the underlying problem.
Silence is Golden: Sometimes, it pays to stay silent, even in the face of provocation. While they say that communicating is important in a relationship, I would argue that too much communication is bad, especially if you have a nagging tendency. You can be sure that much of this communication would in fact just be nagging, if you were to study yourself closely.
Take the Help of Others: Sometimes, especially in social situations, when there are your friends/relatives around, you can utilize them to address your nagging problem. If you could talk to them about helping you out, whenever you feel "naggy" by diverting your attention or bringing up another subject, that would help greatly. Men don't like being nagged, but they don't like it that much more, when they are nagged in front of others. Adopting this strategy would help maintain your respect in his eyes and avoid much agony for him, having to lose face in front of others.
Reflect / Point of View: I often find that putting myself in the other person's shoes gives me fresh new perspective and appreciation of what it is for the other person. I follow this strategy for dealing with many issues in my daily life and it really works. Knowing how your husband would feel, can make you empathize with his situation better and help react more appropriately in a specific situation.
Nagging isn't something someone is born with. It is not in one's genes. If anything, it is a habit, and as with other bad habits, you can learn to tackle it. What you need is appreciation of the problem in the first place and then being disciplined in following strategies to counter it. Stop nagging and start living and loving. There's much to gain and very little to lose!!
Thursday, September 15, 2011
wow~!
Wow..its been more then 3 month since i last blog... i must be getting lazy hehe..but well no denying it.. i have lost the motiviation to blog already. Maybe cause there's nothing new left for me to blog or rants . All have been say and maybe done...in the recent months that nothing else matters anymore.However with my final motiviation i had now.. i will attempt to update some of the stuff that happen in this 3 month and also what's gonna happen soon!
1)Tony Tan is our President.... wtf.. yea...but live with it for the next 6 yr and believe me he is going for 2nd term
2)Finally got my HDB flat and paid 2k deposit..for it :) Its near Chinese Garden. Corperation Tiara.I wonder the reason i got that last unit is because of my ranting on my blog prior GE 2011...hmmm after i rant on my blog about how f*** up Mr Mah is ..and with my personal name below... 1 week later i got the letter saying i'm selected for this special unit should i take.. o.0 . Even when paying for the 2k Deposit the lady was susprise i apply so many time and that i was select for that unit as well... hmmm... this are things that make u go hmmmm...
3)I've offically Tendered my job with "NetIQ" Its time to move on after 4 years...i submited my resignation on Aug 16...but was asked to help out till Oct 7...(shld be sept 16) but i guess my heart with Habasit was strong enuff to help Habasit thru the transition period till Oct 7 .. hopefully the new guy who replace me will be good enuff for Habasit
4)I'm going Taiwan tomorrow for 1 week~! Long lost Vacation since 2005 i think...its been really long since i went for a far away Vacation,hopefully this vacation will be a good one.. i really need a long vacation after so long...:)
There you have it.. the stuff thats on my mind for the pass few months ..nothing much..just simple life...and yeah i quitted mmorpg again... (4th times?) sighz.. really i need to really quit MMORPG i'm getting too old for it... maybe when i hit 60s ++ i can get back to mmos when i'm damm free...
1)Tony Tan is our President.... wtf.. yea...but live with it for the next 6 yr and believe me he is going for 2nd term
2)Finally got my HDB flat and paid 2k deposit..for it :) Its near Chinese Garden. Corperation Tiara.I wonder the reason i got that last unit is because of my ranting on my blog prior GE 2011...hmmm after i rant on my blog about how f*** up Mr Mah is ..and with my personal name below... 1 week later i got the letter saying i'm selected for this special unit should i take.. o.0 . Even when paying for the 2k Deposit the lady was susprise i apply so many time and that i was select for that unit as well... hmmm... this are things that make u go hmmmm...
3)I've offically Tendered my job with "NetIQ" Its time to move on after 4 years...i submited my resignation on Aug 16...but was asked to help out till Oct 7...(shld be sept 16) but i guess my heart with Habasit was strong enuff to help Habasit thru the transition period till Oct 7 .. hopefully the new guy who replace me will be good enuff for Habasit
4)I'm going Taiwan tomorrow for 1 week~! Long lost Vacation since 2005 i think...its been really long since i went for a far away Vacation,hopefully this vacation will be a good one.. i really need a long vacation after so long...:)
There you have it.. the stuff thats on my mind for the pass few months ..nothing much..just simple life...and yeah i quitted mmorpg again... (4th times?) sighz.. really i need to really quit MMORPG i'm getting too old for it... maybe when i hit 60s ++ i can get back to mmos when i'm damm free...
Thursday, June 9, 2011
Yes..i'm offically a married man
Finally i've gone thru the ROM... and yes i'm offically a married man...woah...time really flies..now i'm married with commitment..though i'm still cute ^_^"
anyway now as a married man i will try to fulfill some of the commitments need in a marriage life...
i will take it slow and hope my wife will love wad i do ;)
anyway now as a married man i will try to fulfill some of the commitments need in a marriage life...
i will take it slow and hope my wife will love wad i do ;)
Wednesday, June 1, 2011
I'm Getting Married!!
In 4 days time i will be offically Married >_<""
Stress and mixed feeling overwhelming me now..
Will i surive the ROM?
cya in 4 days time!
Stress and mixed feeling overwhelming me now..
Will i surive the ROM?
cya in 4 days time!
Friday, April 29, 2011
Today my tears drop
Yes i drop my tears in my office after reading/watching all the post /vidz and comment on the upcoming GE 2011... i never expect i would drop tears but those post those speech and those vidz really stur up my emotional feeling...
To those who are in the early 30s, the feeling is the same as the malaysian Cup when singapore win kedah 2-1 in the last match of the 1990s.. you feel PRIDE and Real Happiness when we won the malaysian cup.... but sad to say i cant say anything nice about the recent S-league + the disbanned of the S-league or Foreign Talent team??
To all Fellow Singaporean...Please.. Vote for your future and your children..dun be brain wash by promise for a better future that will magically occur in 5-10 years... and when the 5-10 years comes... they will give u reason of econmic blah blah and ask us endure with them for another 5-10 yr for Even better changes...
ENOUGH IS ENOUGH this ENDS HERE May 2011 !
To those who are in the early 30s, the feeling is the same as the malaysian Cup when singapore win kedah 2-1 in the last match of the 1990s.. you feel PRIDE and Real Happiness when we won the malaysian cup.... but sad to say i cant say anything nice about the recent S-league + the disbanned of the S-league or Foreign Talent team??
To all Fellow Singaporean...Please.. Vote for your future and your children..dun be brain wash by promise for a better future that will magically occur in 5-10 years... and when the 5-10 years comes... they will give u reason of econmic blah blah and ask us endure with them for another 5-10 yr for Even better changes...
ENOUGH IS ENOUGH this ENDS HERE May 2011 !
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