Hmm?

suddenly i recall i had a blog page like decade ago and guess what.. i decide to type something:) Well times really flies its already 2023 and we just went thru Covid-19 which is definitely something that will appeared in the history book for centuries to come Well nothing much changes..i am still alive, married, working and pretty much gaming as well I'm more of in control of my life now compare to the past but i lack the push to feel happier i guess. Life is boring as Job brought in income needed to survice hence without job i cant live a life i want but in order to do that i need a job abiet boring to make it happen Thinking of travelling again but not sure where i want to go this time.. japan? Korea or back to taiwan for some fried oyster I guess this post is just a simple post to show i'm still alive and kicking and life goes on :)

Its been that Long

Yeah .. its been that long since i blog.. happen to suddenly wanna login to blog and update...but unfortunately due to time constraint i can maybe manage afew hundred word? Life have changed once you have your own house and believe it or not ... i'm getting my traditional wedding this coming Sept 13 2015~!... i just want a simple dinner but this dinner cost cost a bomb.... 20k ++ gone haiz... never knew why we need to spend so much to tied us down for a 1 day event >_< .... well if wife happy i can be guarantee some peaceful life i guess its worth it :P I officially move into my new house late Jan and have been staying in here for maybe 6 month plus already. Place is good ( 4 room flat ) i like the rubbish bin scenery outside ( weird i know ) because there is no blockage i can see till jurong island , jurong port and jurong point lol and its very windy at times too I maybe starting to blog again soon seeing i have the urge back also read some of my friends blog... i guess its good to keep some memories so you can remember next time when you look back :)

Ping!

!pong i'm alive.. but nothing much to post except my house is coming within this few months!.. Finally i am going to own a house of my own....a place of my own... :)

My Love and hate relationship with my past my present my future

Previously my post was about game and i guess this would be a follow up on what i've been doing in my gaming life at age 30+ For the past 1 month+ i've been playing CS:GO ( Counter-strike:Global Offensive) A type of genre in game i have started playing since 1998. Considering the fact that 15 year have passed since i starting during the beta days (0.7b i think?)Now graphic has been enchanced with mutiple mode of play and with population at all times high its much much more fun then previous time. De Dust , De Dust 2 , De Nuke and Cs Italy all the map.. i can still remember them from my heart how to walk (now with some additional walkway )Its like going back to your hometown after leaving it for 5years.. :P After 1 month of playing CS:GO i can safely say i got back at least 85% of my skills if not more from the past. My sniping skills is "sufficient" for most matches and pub games while my rifle skills still need to improve quite alot. Some of my friends ( Xlranzer/Medic ) ask me to play path of exile yesterday. I downloaded and tried for 1hr + .. seems ok..but long term wise for solo play will be quite boring i guess... i will let my fate walk on its own to see how it lead me to...maybe 10 yrs from now i will be playing another version of CS :)

Games post

As anyone who knows me well.. i have yet come to another dead end in my quest to play a "MMORPG". Recent years no games can last more then 6 month of actual gameplay from me. The best being recent year would be Aika (Which i spend close to 2.5k SGD) and Aion ( Which i was banned eventually for gold buying ). Other then that game come and go within 2 months or so. Some may say i fly airplane in many of the games i introduce or play but i beg to defer . 1) Games should be fun... if you start losing interest in it then its time to quit and find greener pasture... however there's was the guild issue. If you played with a bunch of friends.. quiting may cause a ripple effect to all the remaining players as well hence there is this pressure when you play with peers...however... Playing with a guild provide more features and more stuff to do ingame especially you need a party to raid/dungeon or pvp hence playing solo would not be recommended especially MMORPG should be playing with friends not solo in the first place... 2)Why older games are fun? Well have you ever think back those old MMOs u played 5-10 yrs ago...yes u can spend months and even years playing even though the graphic suck..there is no autopathing ... no cashshop and even no youtube guide to do quest on...yet we enjoy it. BUT when u login to play those games now u wont last more then afew hours before uninstalling them.. sometime memories should always be left as a memory ..dun try to relive it... The reason will be that in the "Older" days we are only given 3-5 choice in MMORPG hence every mmorpg during that time have a huge and lively community. Everyone is helping to shape up the mmorpg be it good or bad we gonna live it thru since there is really not much of a choice.. you either play or quit and there wont be much choices out there too.... Nowaday you quit a MMOs you just need to wait for 1-2 month a new one will take its place and the MMORPG markets is now so Saturated that most average MMOs only have a lifespan of 6-9 month (including open betas)Ragnarok online 2 is just one of such game. Most Game hoster will try to milk $$ out of the first 3 month of the game thru Founder Pack or Advance login stuff which can cost anything from 9.99USD to 159.99USD cause they know if they dun milk you for the first 6 month they wont be able to make extra money from you afterward. Anyway i can go on and on but...i'm tired.I'm currently playing TSW ( The Secret World ) alone without guild/cabal this time. I dun think i can last any longer without guild. Without Nightmare dungeon runs i can't really gear up and with everyone running with 10.4 gears and me blues and 10.0 gears...i find no pleasure anymore playing...This is a cruel world. Without dungeon run you can gear up ..you could try PVP...but letting people hit you glyph gears with your non glyph gear is another issue. You dmg may have increase slightly to match everyone but you can't beat someone with unlimited crit and peneration while you hardly crit or pent someone -_-... yeah i guess its time soon too.. Not ranting .. just wanna get something out of my head and make it into a blog so when i'm older and look back at my blog i can imagine that period of time which this comes into my mind to become one of my better memory :)

A 20 years ago story i heard and suddenly remember

This is a story i heard from a book which was like 20 yrs ago.... i manage to find the story again and here it is .. :) This is a story about Elfie-the best dog in the whole world. We grew up together, but Elfie grew much faster than I did. I loved resting my head on her warm coat. Then we would dream together. My brother and sister loved Elfie very much, but she was "my" dog. Every day, Elfie and I played together. Elfie loved to chase squirrels and to dig in my mother's flower garden. Sometimes my folks would get angry with Elfie when she would get into mischief. But they still loved her, even when they scolded her. The trouble was, no one told her except me. The years passed quickly, and while I was growing taller and taller, Elfie was growing rounder and rounder. The older Elfie got, the more she slept, and the less she liked to walk. I was getting worried! We took Elfie to the vet, but there wasn't much he could do. "Elfie is just growing old," he said. It soon became too difficult for Elfie to climb the stairs. But she HAD to sleep in my room. I gave Elfie a soft pillow to sleep on, and before we went to sleep I would say to her, "I'll always love you." I knew she understood. One morning I woke up and discovered that Elfie had died during the night. We buried Elfie together. We all cried and hugged each other. My brother and sister loved Elfie a lot, but they never told her so. I was very sad, too, but it helped to remember that I told her every night, "I'll always love you." A neighbor offered me a puppy. I knew Elfie wouldn't have minded, but I said no. I gave him Elfie's basket instead. He needed it more than I did. Someday I'll have another dog, or a kitten or a goldfish. But whatever it is, I'll tell it every night: "I'll always love you."

March already?? oh wait April soon

Wow..this year time really pass fast..before i know it its already April 2013 and i'm already 33 years old... it seems only 1-2 yrs ago i was 29...i guess when you grow older time move faster too.. Well some little update here to keep this blog alive i guess Work So far so good , this is by far the best job i ever had since i started working ( Yes its better then cybercafe job).The only thing i would be complaining would be the distance to travel to work once i've got my own house next year...and i will have to squeeze into MRT or go to work 20min earlier on bus due to the increase in distance to travel !!! Love Life :P Good ^_^ , we go out on weekend for movies , mahjong and food hunt ( wife's favourite ). Although we try to stay at home to save up for our other expensse ( HK,Bali trip) we do try to make our life interesting as we are in our early 30s. Hope our house will be ready next yr March onward so as i can enjoy being owner of a house though i drag to pay for all the bills next time !! -.- ( Will try to persuade parent to live with us and rent out our current house for rental ) Plan for this year Well, mostly be waiting for the Bali trip in july and another Hong Kong trip (unconfirmed date) this yr with a small Genting getaway in between hopefully.Seems in recent years i've always put Genting as one of my getaway. Guess i love gambling and i take abit of my father side of that kind of gene... hopefully not so much gene of that *_*|| I hope to save 10k this year too ( not in the shared account ) as an accomplishment cause previous jobs i wasnt able to save much and i hope with this "new" job i can save more for my future Well enuff update for now.. time to work work work

Mini Update

Its been another while since i last blog.. due to CNY heavy gambling weeks haha...overall this year is a good year my winning is in the hundred :) Planned my leave today 5 days in july for bali trip .. and 1 day for my wife's jay chou concert -.- really wish can sell off the ticket for a 100% profit..but i guess.. wife really wanna go enjoy $$ fly away~~~~~ With the recent white paper ruling and tight car policy...one can only wonder why are there still people still voting for them! CCB.. i guess there are just too many rich people in Singapore therefore the votes are always there.. hopefully by 2016 the votes are so diluted yet and we can kick their buttock high high till they listen to us Singaporean instead of dollar and cents. Guess this is a very small update... will update once i got time ^_^ cheerios

Christmas Eve

Finally its Christmas eve...but i'm still working!! (8am-1pm) half day though. Although i wish i am not working but i have nothing to do at home anyway might as well work and take the friday off since thursday is the launch of Ragnarok online 2 Time pass really fast and only recently i've began blogging more regularly.Hopefully this will maintain and my special private diary is still updated although the diary is nearing full since 1986... till now.Come to think of it...i've not updated my diary for an aweful long period of time..maybe this coming wednesday i will update it My resolution for 2013 will be getting a pay rise and having a relaxing pro-active work life balance life be it at work or personal life =) If all goes well i may be an owner of a HDB by the end of the year as well! Its hard imagining only 5 years ago i was a guy with hardly any saving (i still am! ) , no life motiviation , no future planning nor even thinking of getting a wife that now suddenly i've so much things to look forward to. I guess we really have to grew up and that those responbility eventually be it early in life or later in life Well 2013 is coming and we avoided the end of the year..so yeah life goes on and i will try to make the best of it ^_^ \/ Still the CutiePie Trek from 1980-2012

Christmas and New year is coming

Time is moving faster and faster...before you know it 2013 is almost here ( Although we are not sure if we can pass dec 21 yet ) Its like only 6 month since i quited gucci or 7-9 month since i last habasit but its more then 1 year since i quit habasit and more then 11 month since i left gucci.... Life is pretty all right..and its like....only last month since i went Hong Kong, however what i really miss was Taiwan. I love the people there and i miss the food there and i miss the Vacation there!. I will wish to go there again with friends on my next trip Christmas is coming and i'm yet to figure out where to bring my wife to go happy lol..in the past Genting was always the easy way out enjoying cool air and casino on the mountain...but this year we were unable to book genting and due to my wire tight schedule with so many of her friends ROM + 21st bday etc. plus the fact we went HongKong during july..we will be staying in Singapore. Maybe.. a nice Dinner at some posh place ba..or a nice movie with sofa seat again hehe.. Recently i'm in a recluse gaming stage..and i'm very honest to say i am waiting for a new mmorpg to keep me entertain...which i believe will be Ragnarok online 2 since its new and everyone start same lvl which give me the incentive to start playing whereas TSO people already have 2.5 month edge over me since i quited since sept and its now Free to Play. I hope my next post will be before New year..i notice i started to blog less since the beginning of this year ever since i change job. I believe my lifestyle have dramactially changed hence my blogging lifestyle or it simply mean i am bored of Blogging... =) All in all just wanna wish anyone or any googlebot/yahoobot Merry Chistmas and a happy new year!

Dec 2012

Wow Time really flies....2012 is ending... The past few year has really move upon me in a way i never knew.. I accomplish things that in the past will take years to accomplish but i manage to do them within 2 yrs. Getting Married, Getting my own house... Getting my car ..Getting my first real insurance scheme ...and finally getting my first job that has all the "real" benefit like 13month , variable bonus etc and travel bonus. This has let me to think back on my past..have i been moving too slowly in the past and only recently that i've finally caught out to my age group?. It does let me ponder on things i should have done earlier but dismissed it till the later stage of my life. Now as a 32 yr old guy i feel like a 26-27ish kind of mentality (used to be 22-24 lol ) I know i'm catching up to my actual age.. but that is still maybe 3-5 yr more to go before i actually caught up...before that happen let me enjoy my last few years of childish wishes and dreams ..hopefully i can still maintain my happiness in me since now my life is really much better then it was .. :)

My Life..

Hehe.. though i promise myself to blog often..but seems i cant keep this promise but at least this post is not too far from my previous post... =x So far life is good.. i quited MMORPG ...yet again and relegated to Dota 2 with my friends i met thru out this past few years gaming. In Short life is really getting better by alot within this few years My BTO house already built until 13 floor liao.. soon it will be at 20th (max 20th floor) and i predicted i will be able to move in around nov next year...Now really need to start saving tons of money if not how to survice sia! Work so far i'm liking it alot. Ever since i started working 2003 at E-games till now.. this is the only job after almost 4 month that i can say that its still Stress free. Talk about irony... =.= . The only downside is i have to squeeze with ppl to take bus to work...but when travelling home i am gurantee a seat but it will become sadine by the time i get out whew!. I'm looking into planning a Genting trip this coming Nov-Dec ..hopefully i can get to breath cold air and do some gambling considering my luck have change and that i feel i'm lucky enough to win some money back from the Casino...i really do feel that way =) Me and my wife are still as loving as always although she love to nag at me ( she "enjoy" nagging her sibling since young so i guess now we are married she transfer this onto me and her sibling was actually happy i am at recieving end and not them -_- )But we do need to work on our spending now since our house is coming and the fact we just bought a insurance + rider for both of us which will eat us 150-200 sgd per month >_< I hope my life can continue this smooth sailing and my job can maintain longer then 10 yr... The environment is really not bad compare to previous jobs. All in all i will end my blogging with the usual crap ... i will blog often! =x

Woah its that long

Yup..its that long since i last blog..and yes..alot of things happen and i'm gonna update some of them if not all of them to my best of my memory 1)June 13 -Finally found my job(hopefully dream job) after 4month ++ of job searching..its with Singapore Power as IT as. Pay is not bad..and the benefit is very good... jobscope wise is all right as well..hopefully this will be my long lasting job..and from what i can see from the staffs there..its indeed a place you can work quite long in. 2)May 29-June 4th My Taiwan wedding photo shoot is completed and uplodated a few preview pic on fb if anyone wanna see. The rest of the photos are not uploaded at the moment as we still waiting for the fully edited version hehe.Everyday after our photoshoot we will went to a night market to pig ourself and shop abit...its abit rush for time as we only have 4 day there but we enjoy ourself despite the crunch of time we had... 3)July 21th-31 july(ongoing) i'm in HK now...we just experience few days ago the strongest typhoon hk ever encounter since 1999. Its rated as typhoon 10... and i manage to experience it first hand by helping a hongkong resident carry her lugage from the mtr to the bus terminal thru a open walkway.. and get blown by the typhoon 8 wind (10 was During midnight which i am already home) I cannot really stand on my own with luguage on one hand and one hand balancing my way thru..its fun and once in a lifetim for singaporean..unless u always go hongkong during this time.The trip so far is dull...to say the least.. HK disney land have some interesting ride..but most of the stuff is intended for small kids... gonna look forward to the ocean park trip though..since i saw most of the ride are fast and thrilling!!! During this time..we took MTR and bus like a fellow hk...and i have to say their standard of living is quite high if not higher then us! I would suggest Taiwan trip if you wanna eat and enjoy yourself. If you are rich and wanna use money to enjoy yourself Hongkong will be your best location. Today we went Macau and while shopping happen to saw a Hk actress who act in My Date with the vampire (Yao Qiu Shen Mu) She was there promoting some shop and we happen to be in that same shop.More will be updated as the trip progress since i will try my upmost best to keep this blog alive....as this serve my personal reading article as my memories fails.. as a movie once told me Memory may fade but the adventure and feeling for it will never be erase Personal Life Ok back to my personal life.. yes i'm still quite a gamer...currently playing The Secret World..and its a fun game!! addicitve too but its too bad i'm in HK now if not i will be gaming and wont have time to blog lol... I did bought D3 but sold in 2 week time after i got hack ( apparently alot of ppl got hack too) anyway i dun like it ..so i sell its reduce price of 50SGD to a fellow COK. Well currently thats all i can think of..abit tired now in my room at Pok fu lam apartment we rent for our 9 day stay.I will update more often!! i promise \/

I'm alive

Yes.. still alive..but.. in a limbo now

Emo?

Recently PMS(Emo) dawn on me again..and no nothing bad happen to be nor i'm bleeding like a real PMS *lol* but it just make me feel emo out of nothing

Maybe its that i'm leaving my job and unclear of the future or is that life have been susprising boring that make me feel this way

This year begin as a married man in a CNY. Meaning i will no longer recieved Ang Bao ..and have to give ang bao after 1 yr of marriage >_< S_S fly away

I hope 2012 i can get a nice job with good pay .. happier life and also something to look forward every time of the month

^_^

Alive

Yoz
i'm still alive just less blogging ..been a happier year .. hoping the next yr will be fine as well

Currently working in Gucci singapore..but not really happy...will be leaving soon though hope to find a new better job

I've just came back from Taiwan..i must say the trip is quite fun considering we go with family....hope to visit Taiwan again soon ..though next year i'm going Hongkong ~!~!~!~!

currently working now...cant really blog..but just wanna say this blog is still alive and i still come back from time to time to blog... :)

The Naggy ( Diffcult Wife )

The Difficult Wife

What is a difficult wife from a husband's perspective?

Nagging is the number one complaint of men. A difficult wife hounds her husband until he gets it. If he remains unaffected, she will resort to name calling. If unsuccessful, she will scold him like a child.

A difficult wife claims that her husband is not doing anything in the house or does not understand what is needed in the house. A difficult wife thinks a husband does not do anything right. A difficult wife accuses her husband that the reason they are in a bad situation is because of his bad decisions. A difficult wife makes her husband feel that he is in a "no-win situation". A husband feels that his difficult wife does not see the sacrifices made. He feels unappreciated. All the actions of a husband seem insignificant. She treats her husband like a child who needs to be fixed. To avoid confrontation, the husband avoids interaction with his wife. A difficult wife is ungrateful. She does not know how hard he works to provide for them.

The Reality

Is it an issue of the wife being difficult or is it because the husband lacks an understanding of his role as a leader?

No one taught a man to bring out the innate leadership skills in his family life. So, the children in the house are confused. They need clarifications from their parents on what it means to be the leader of the house. If their expectations are unclear, these sons will continue the cycle. This son will be a future husband who is withdrawn and passive.

It is typical for the husband to go home from work tired. He goes to a world of his own by watching his favorite sport. He retires to the couch. He rationalizes his need for rest. His wife realizes that this is unfair. She wanted her man to have the energy to deal with the current family issue and not ignore it.. She starts to let him know her frustrations. The husband knew it was coming and labels his wife as a "big time nagger".

Lacking in leadership skills, he feels that his wife knows the problem better than him. Thus, she can handle it better. He loses his desire to be present. He feels uncertain about the issue. He will unlikely initiate an action. He will bury himself with work and stay late in the office. He will go out with his friends and drink until the wee hours of the morning. He will go to golf games with his buddies the whole weekend. He will even take separate vacations.

The husband is actually leading himself away from his wife. If the wife puts her foot forward, the husband gets upset. He feels that the wife is preventing him from becoming the man he should be. His bitterness turns to rage. He attacks and loses control. He hurts his wife. He feels guilty then further withdraws. He feels inadequate to be a family leader. He allows his wife to lead. He stops desiring to take charge. The wife takes over. The husband complains "Geez, you do have a problem."


Wife/Gf should take note


Tackle Problems by Talking: Your husband isn't perfect and there would be times when you need to really have a frank talk with him. You don't need to feel conscious about do so, lest you be "nagging." All that you have to do is watch your tone and prepare the setting. Catch him when he isn't watching TV or distracted in any other way and can give you his full attention. Having done so, sit him across and talk to him in a gentle tone and discuss the problems that you want to put across to him and how you'd like to get it resolved. He would appreciate you for doing so. Talking is very different from nagging. I am sure you know the difference in tone and approach.

Stop Pointing out His Wrongs: We all make mistakes, don't we? Do we like others (even our partners) pointing out that to us? Of course, we don't! So, do you think your husband would appreciate the fact that you list out what he's done wrong during the day, at home or through all the years he's been with you? He wouldn't! If you feel your husband has done a wrong that he shouldn't have, as stated above, there's a better way - talking. Nagging is just a continuous burst of complaints and accusations, which would do no good to your relationship and do nothing to solve the underlying problem.

Silence is Golden: Sometimes, it pays to stay silent, even in the face of provocation. While they say that communicating is important in a relationship, I would argue that too much communication is bad, especially if you have a nagging tendency. You can be sure that much of this communication would in fact just be nagging, if you were to study yourself closely.

Take the Help of Others: Sometimes, especially in social situations, when there are your friends/relatives around, you can utilize them to address your nagging problem. If you could talk to them about helping you out, whenever you feel "naggy" by diverting your attention or bringing up another subject, that would help greatly. Men don't like being nagged, but they don't like it that much more, when they are nagged in front of others. Adopting this strategy would help maintain your respect in his eyes and avoid much agony for him, having to lose face in front of others.

Reflect / Point of View: I often find that putting myself in the other person's shoes gives me fresh new perspective and appreciation of what it is for the other person. I follow this strategy for dealing with many issues in my daily life and it really works. Knowing how your husband would feel, can make you empathize with his situation better and help react more appropriately in a specific situation.

Nagging isn't something someone is born with. It is not in one's genes. If anything, it is a habit, and as with other bad habits, you can learn to tackle it. What you need is appreciation of the problem in the first place and then being disciplined in following strategies to counter it. Stop nagging and start living and loving. There's much to gain and very little to lose!!

wow~!

Wow..its been more then 3 month since i last blog... i must be getting lazy hehe..but well no denying it.. i have lost the motiviation to blog already. Maybe cause there's nothing new left for me to blog or rants . All have been say and maybe done...in the recent months that nothing else matters anymore.However with my final motiviation i had now.. i will attempt to update some of the stuff that happen in this 3 month and also what's gonna happen soon!

1)Tony Tan is our President.... wtf.. yea...but live with it for the next 6 yr and believe me he is going for 2nd term

2)Finally got my HDB flat and paid 2k deposit..for it :) Its near Chinese Garden. Corperation Tiara.I wonder the reason i got that last unit is because of my ranting on my blog prior GE 2011...hmmm after i rant on my blog about how f*** up Mr Mah is ..and with my personal name below... 1 week later i got the letter saying i'm selected for this special unit should i take.. o.0 . Even when paying for the 2k Deposit the lady was susprise i apply so many time and that i was select for that unit as well... hmmm... this are things that make u go hmmmm...

3)I've offically Tendered my job with "NetIQ" Its time to move on after 4 years...i submited my resignation on Aug 16...but was asked to help out till Oct 7...(shld be sept 16) but i guess my heart with Habasit was strong enuff to help Habasit thru the transition period till Oct 7 .. hopefully the new guy who replace me will be good enuff for Habasit

4)I'm going Taiwan tomorrow for 1 week~! Long lost Vacation since 2005 i think...its been really long since i went for a far away Vacation,hopefully this vacation will be a good one.. i really need a long vacation after so long...:)

There you have it.. the stuff thats on my mind for the pass few months ..nothing much..just simple life...and yeah i quitted mmorpg again... (4th times?) sighz.. really i need to really quit MMORPG i'm getting too old for it... maybe when i hit 60s ++ i can get back to mmos when i'm damm free...

Yes..i'm offically a married man

Finally i've gone thru the ROM... and yes i'm offically a married man...woah...time really flies..now i'm married with commitment..though i'm still cute ^_^"

anyway now as a married man i will try to fulfill some of the commitments need in a marriage life...

i will take it slow and hope my wife will love wad i do ;)

I'm Getting Married!!

In 4 days time i will be offically Married >_<""

Stress and mixed feeling overwhelming me now..

Will i surive the ROM?


cya in 4 days time!